Allegations
Of Abuse Prevention & Survival
Support
Services for
Persons Experiencing Allegations
Needs
of Families
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©HONEST
©OPEN
©REAL
©SHARP
©VULNERABLE
©ACCESSIBLE
©MORAL
They
need HORSVAM
support
| Principle |
Need to |
Result |
| Confidentiality |
Feel safe from gossip |
Builds trust |
| Acceptance |
Recognized worth |
Restore dignity |
| Empathy |
Sympathetic Response |
Affirm values and
concerns |
| Individualization |
Treated as individual |
Restore independence |
| Expression |
Express feelings |
Restore self-esteem |
| Self-discrimination |
Make your own decision |
Restore self-worth |
| Non-judgmental feedback |
Not to be judged |
Restore hope |
HELP THEM LEARN DON’T MAKE THEM SQUIRM
BE POSITIVE
NOT PUNITIVE!
SET
System of Support
During crisis communication may be hindered by three major feeling states:
This results in rage, impulsiveness, threats of self-harm,
suicide, unreasonable demands.
S.E.T.
SUPPORT
SUPPORT
EMPATHY
TRUTH
SUPPORT
-- PERSONAL STATEMENT OF CONCERN
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“I” statements:
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“I am sincerely worried about how your are feeling.”
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“I” have noticed… speakers own feelings, personal pledge to try to help.
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Do
"I" understand right...is this ....what you are saying.
EMPATHY
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ACKNOWLEDGE CHAOTIC FEELINGS WITH “YOU”
STATEMENTS.
TRUTH
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MUST BE USED.
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Reality emphasizes that the Borderline is responsible for their
own life and recognizes that a problem exists.
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Address what can be done to solve it.
“Avoid blaming or punishing.
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Truth statements may include how it makes you feel.
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“Well what
do you think you can do about it.”
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“Here’s what happened…
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These are the consequences…
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This is what I can do…
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What are you going to do...
Brief
program overview
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05/28/02
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Making connections to promote
restoration and renewal for families and children in crisis and trauma