Allegations Of 
Abuse Prevention & Survival

by Jodee Kulp and Judy Howell

• nDefine the problem
• nDetermine significance of the issue
• nDevelop history of issue
• nDevelop options
• nAccumulate other data on issue
• nAddress who is affected and how
• nPrepare factual discussion material
• nPrepare for final decision

Everyone reaches
 a Decision Time ! ! !

• Bitterness over the experience
  • Underconfident
  • Feel inadequate
  • Defers decisions to others
  • Does not take responsibility
  • Denial and excuses
  • Promotes destruction
  • Selfish concern self and others
  • Causes pain, injury  to self or others
  • Oppressive - Weighs heavily on the mind
  • Deadens feelings and power of person
  • Increases stress tension, pressure
  • Intolerance - Excessive - Uncontrolled
  • Easy to ignite
  • Decadent (in a state of decline)
  • Difficult to stifle
  • Offensive
  • Controlling
  • Thinks but may never act
  • Good intentions-limited follow-through
  • Avoids doing somthing knows needs
    to be done--THEN MAY REACT  

    • INTERNALIZE
    • IRRITATE
    • ISOLATE
    • ESCAPE
    • FIGHT

• Stay on the Merry-go-round of emotions
  • Overconfidence
  • Will not seek counsel
  • Acts before thinking
  • Mistakes are made and not admitted
  • Arrogance
  • Team loses confidence
    OFTEN REACT and are usually the last to
    know they are overconfident
    and making mistakes

• Acceptance of the experience

• Balanced Confidence
• Asks questions to gain knowledge
• Defers tasks to more qualified people if necessary
• Good assessment of situation
• Genuine concern self and others
• Self and others benefit
• Liberating - Freedom of Thoughts
• Beneficial
• Difficult to rile
• Easy to check
• Nourishing
• Accepts own limitations and abilities
• Increases quality of life
• Respected
• Lets others know limitations
• Uplifting (elevates, influences)
• Increases peace, flexibility, release
• Patience - Moderation - Self-restraint
• Willing to face or deal with pain or danger
  With Balanced Confidence You Have The Choice of RESPONSE vs REACTION
• • REFOCUS
  • RENEW
  • REACH-OUT
  • ASSESS
  • DIRECT