P A R E N T  t o  P A R E N T

Sample Family Rules and Structure

“Friends come and go, but family is forever.”

We make the commitment to each youth that
if they find themselves in trouble they can call from where ever they are and we will come and get them... 
no questions asked.
we discovered long ago they are so glad to see us
we get the details before we get home or within the week.

We will determine family signals that keep 
everyone safe and respectful
for some of our kids these have been very overt
and for others very subtle.

 The table is safe for any discussion. 
If you bring an issue to the table before we catch you it will be discussed amicably.
this has always promoted honesty and
 openness in our family.

 We will strive to find the “right” balance
of freedom and discipline for each family member.
each child is on a different time line for
being able to do things and each child requires 
different discipline.

As a family we will:

  • Keep our young people safe.

  • Focus on positives rather than negatives.

  • Respect individuality in each person.

  • Allow freedoms as responsibility, judgment, new skills and talents develop.

  • Show we value each person’s work and provide opportunity for learning.

  • Not criticize or squelch a person's enthusiasm though we may need to redirect it.

  • Help each other to deal with failure and bounce back without being devastated.

  • Talk about each person’s strengths and figure out ways to maximize them.

  • Provide support systems.

 Every family member contributes to:

 Family       Self-improvement  Self
  • Help with family chores  
  • Participate in family events
  • Be friendly with family
  • Learn new things everyday
  • Work on attitude 
  • Standard English with family
  • Keep appearance nice
  • Keep room clean
  • Keep clothes clean

We do not allow these behaviors in any under
18 year old family member living in our home

  • Smoking  

  • Drinking  

  • Friendship with gang member  

  • Piercing  

  • Sex / Pornographic Materials

  • Drugs /Inhalant  

  • Going with a stranger  

  • Stealing

  • Being in car with someone drinking  

  • Speeding  

  • Swearing /
    Dissing or capping

  • Phone calls after 10:00  

  • Shoplifting

  • Vandalism

  • Going in cars without permission  

  • Tattoos

  • Explicit Dress/ Appearance

  • Running Away

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